Why men are from Earth and Women are also from Earth! -- The unspoken words!!

Years back, I remember reading an interesting incident in the “ Humour in uniform section” – yes, you have guessed it right!  This is in Readers Digest!

Here is my narrative on this..(means, am not able to trace the original article :)  )

Apparently during the world war, the Nazis and Allies were locked in a fierce battle near a hillock and it was reaching a stalemate situation.  Each side could not progress an inch as both the armies were well entrenched and probably equally matched.

In war these situations could be common, but on the ground level a small problem was being faced. Soldiers of both sides were fatigued by the continuous battle and had not had a break or a bath for days…yes days. The solution was apparently simple – right in between the two warring factions ran a small stream. The victor could go and have a bath, but the situation was a stalemate!

Finally one smart soldier realizing that both sides have these issue, did something different.He dropped his gun and his dress, ran (almost) nude to the stream with his hands up and took a quick bath and ran back.

Seeing this, soldiers from both the sides started to do this one by one…and the problem was solved!! Did anybody shoot – no way – even though it was the enemy soldier who was bathing, they realized the situation and there was an unspoken agreement.

In real life, people know that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus; quite poles apart.

But there are situations where sometimes sometimes both of us pretend that the situation does not exist & carry on with things. In a way people might think this is conflict avoidance, but there are situations where I think this is alright – my view is – this is a way of giving space to each other.

Let me give an e.g. to make my point
 * One of my friends smokes – used to do it before marriage and post marriage, was wondering what would happen.  Well…the girl does not like him smoking (like all girls do! ;) –  The unwritten, sorry unspoken agreement here is: the boy has reduced smoking and does not smoke in front of her or in the house. So the boy get his space (literally, to smoke) and the girl acknowledges the fact that he has reduced smoking.
Truly Win-Win!!!
Just imagine the other way around…Girl insists that the boy should not smoke..it is good for both their health!!  But if the boy does not accept this - could lead to conflicts or the boy might still continue the habit secretly - not acceptable!
* Other e.g. of the unspoken agreements:
                 *  People of different religious beliefs getting married ; each of them could still follow their beliefs without converting to the other religion – each not enforcing their religion or beliefs on other!

                 * What about eating habits --- one person eats non-veg and other does not!! Should the spouse convert to being a Vegan or the other way round…Not essential if you are both agree to disagree on this.

Realize the power of the unspoken words with your spouse and try and give each other space.

Truly life is much more Happier if each of us realize our space / the unspoken words and know that all of us are from the same good ol Mother earth!Sometimes there could be “views” or Opinions or judgment – on a particular situation; Not necessary that there is only one “Final” view between the couple or that the spouse should accept the others view & change their viewpoint.